Single mothers are the strongest women and most resilient individuals because they fulfill the roles of 2 people, and yet you won't even hear them complain. They wake up every day, put food on the table, provide for the family, always thinking about their children, and never about themselves, how lucky we are to have this selfless, loving individual on our side. Though, oftentimes single mothers have to be reminded that their motherhood never means giving up the dreams for themselves.
Joining us today is Kimberly Miles who is a single superhero mom and is also a great role model to all women. She has shown and proved that circumstances would never stop her from reaching her dreams. She has fulfilled her passion for living abroad and running her own business. Now she is the founder of KNM Virtual Solutions and author of the blog, "Travel Unapologetically."
I started my own business because I was tired of the rat race, working 40+ hours per week to fulfill someone else's dream, and hours away from my son on a daily basis. I wanted to create something that would allow me to fulfill MY own passion while allowing me to be more present for my son.
What makes your business unique?
My business is all about providing single mothers with a "third hand" so that they can free themselves of the pressure of being the sole income provider while at the same time having the FREEDOM to be more present for their family.
What impact do you want to have in the world or change you want to see or make happen?
I want to end the negative stereotypes and expectations of single mothers and that we are not financially or physically capable of providing for our children AND living the life that we dream of and deserve!
Are You Happy with your business, What makes you happy, And What Would You Change?
Absolutely-- I love being able to help other single mothers realize their potential and build and grow their businesses from scratch. I wouldn't change a thing.
Did You Experience Failures? If So, What Did You Learn From Them
Yes. In my past prior to starting my own company, I had lost not one but THREE job losses, had to give up my apartment and move back home with mom, had an unexpected pregnancy, had to file bankruptcy, lost my car, AND had to give up nearly everything I owned other than the clothes on my back. But despite hitting rock bottom more than once, I refused to let it define me or tear me away from my dreams. I told myself that I would never, EVER put myself in a position to have my ground swept from under me again. Life was too short, I was determined to recover, rise up, and come out strong. From that point on, every step I took was intentional toward my life dreams of working for myself, and being able to do so from anywhere in the world...and that is what led me to where I am today.
How Did You Handle Adversity And Doubt?
I had to remind myself that I am the only one in control of my own life, and whatever I believed would be the truth. It was up to me to shift my own mindset and believe in myself despite the negativity around me. I told myself that if I gave up, it would be letting the naysayers win-- and I refused to let that happen!
Do You Plan On Growing Your Business? How?
Yes, I plan to grow my business by providing more one-on-one coaching in addition to the virtual marketing support that I currently provide for single mompreneurs.
Do you think self-love and trust are important in running a successful business? Why?
Absolutely! You MUST believe in yourself and your OWN potential before you even take the first step to starting your own business. There will be many times that it will feel like you have no one supporting your business or goals and when you will be your own cheerleaders...so you MUST have the trust in your ability to realize your own dreams. If you don't love and believe in you, who will?
What advice would you give someone who is interested in starting their own business?
JUST DO IT. An idea is just an idea without action. There will be several voices in the back of your head telling you all the reasons why you can't do it-- those are the voices you need to shut out. That gut feeling to start your own business is there because you are capable of doing it. Write it down, set goals, and work step by step to make it happen. It may not be easy, but it is always possible!
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Trusting your intuition will lead you to create a passionate and joy-filled life. Are you ready to get turned on to a new way of thinking? Are you ready to meet people who have conversations that speak to the things that truly light you up? What if you had access to a podcast that featured women, just like you, who shared stories that empowered you to let go of a lifetime,
to others' expectations and to start living in the now with passion and joy, I'm Jacqueline Rodriguez, founder of your intuitive light coaching owner of enlightened styles, holistic salon, and your host of the intuitive light podcast for the enlightened entrepreneur. My goal is to help women recognize how tightly they are tied to negative thoughts and other people's expectations so that they can fully embrace and become the untethered CEO.
They've always wanted it to be. You're about to meet some amazing women who will inspire you to untether yourself from any fears, the negativity that you carry, and become the untethered CEO of your life. This podcast is for you woman champion, warrior, entrepreneur, mother phenomenon. Hello everyone. And thank you for coming back to the intuitive light podcast and show I'm your host Jacqueline Rodriguez.
Thank you so much for being here today. I have a wonderful guest Kimberly Miles, and she is the founder of K N M virtual solutions, and the author of the blog travel unapologetically. I'm excited to have her on the show today and here is Kimberly. Thank you so much for being on the show. We've just gotten a chance to know each other a little bit more the last few weeks,
and I love your story and everything that you've been doing. Um, I would love for you to just tell us a little bit about who you are and how you got to be, um, or how you started virtually. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. So to start, I'm originally from Alexandria, Virginia, um, back in 2008, I decided to do like the craziest thing of my life.
I picked up my son and decided, you know what I'm done with this corporate life. I want to, you know, move abroad, do something a little bit more different and, um, you know, create a lifestyle where I could be more present for him and not spend 40 plus hours per week, um, in my job or commuting back and forth.
Um, I'm a single mom. So, you know, a lot of my time with my son, um, you know, it was very valuable to me. And when I'm spending most of my time at work in the office and he's spending, you know, 12, 13 hours a day at daycare, it's like, you know, well, where am I even getting time to spend time with him?
It's exhausting for him, for me to get up in the morning before the sun comes up, come home and then, you know, rush your dinner and get him the bed he's fussy and I'm rushing him because, you know, we have a schedule and, um, I decided I was tired of that. So, um, yeah, made the decision to move abroad in 2018.
And, um, so part of that was creating my business and in virtual solutions. Now my background is in marketing and communications. So my company can have virtual is, you know, marketing developments, marketing support, social media support, and content creation for small businesses. Um, over time, my business has transformed into helping other single moms and mompreneurs because I found that,
you know, I had more of a connection that way. Uh, as I mentioned before, we spent so much time working and, uh, that we're not able to be fully present for our children. And so, um, the business kind of transformed into helping other mompreneurs, other single moms so that they can build their businesses or start a business so that they can have that more,
you know, independent lifestyle or would Chicago location, independent lifestyle, whether they're either deciding to move abroad or if they're just trying to find a way that they can be at home with their kids or create their own schedule, create their own life around it. And, um, so yeah, that's a little bit about my business. We, um, I'm still solely owning it by myself.
It's just, um, me running it on my own. We've been in Mexico for two years now. Everything's great. I spend time with my son where I need to, I serve my clients when I need to. Um, my blog, for example, is also about helping other single moms or solo, uh, solar travelers kind of build a lifestyle of traveling and kind of dismantling,
you know, expectations. And, um, it's really allowed me to really fully commit to that and give back to that and help other moms and, uh, you know, women really do what they want with their life. I think it's so important that we do have that nice balance because a lot of the things going on now in the world with the,
you know, cause it is still the pandemic and there's just a lot of craziness. One of the things that I noticed is I think it was really meant for us. I think it opened up our eyes to see what's important in our lives because not as many people take that and really listen to it because we are so brainwashed to work harder and you know,
you've got to work 40 plus hours or you're just, you know, not good enough or survive. There are other ways of doing it, right. Kids stay in daycare all day or stay in school and then go from school to after school care to whatever. And then you get to see them for like two hours. And I think that it's so important,
the work that you're doing, showing other people that it can be done and done successfully, and you can be happy and you can continue to make, you know, a career and abundance and take care of your family without all the hearts. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. And I'm sure it's not easy, but nothing is like, I mean, nothing's super easy,
but it's worth it. And it's doable to be able to spend more time with your child and to do something that you actually really love and that you connect with. Right. Right. And you know, that's one thing that I, when you said that it's not always easy. That's one thing that I put in my blog and people who've read my blog or have seen,
you know, the stuff, the posts that I put on my page. I always say, it's not easy or it's not always easy, but it's possible. There's always a way around it. There's always a different way of doing things. And like you mentioned, you know, the pandemic, I think, you know, it was hard on a lot of people.
It still is to this day, even myself who has, I've created my life around, you know, having flexibility, having my, being able to have my son around or being able to be with my son more, but it still created difficulties because it made us rethink how we do things, you know, having our kids at home during the day or spending more time with them,
spending more time with family, not being able to, not having to go to the office every day, but having to reconnect and make a home priority. And you know, like we have talked about and other people talked about all the time, like, you know, we're on these calls and meetings and then our kids come in and so many people are like,
Oh my gosh, the kids, but it's like, no, that's life. That's what life is. That's our family. That's important. That's, what's important. That's what the priority is. And so by creating this kind of lifestyle for women or for anybody, I mean, I think it's important to kind of helping them see that, you know,
there are different ways of doing things, you know, there are different ways to fit and family, and as you said, work or you don't really want to consider at work because you're doing something you love. I mean, we don't have to all fit ourselves into this box. You know, there are different ways of making it work for us. And,
and that's actually one of my huge passions. And what I have really set out to do is show women that we don't have to be in the box. We don't have to come from. We can actually be trailblazers and set new paths and it is okay for us to do that. We can dream bigger and have these huge visions. That's what I did.
And, you know, I started working more from home during the pandemic because I own the salon and I'm in there a little less than I used to be so that I can work from home. But you know, the kids walk in, I mean, my dog right now just came in like hopped in my lap. You know, things happen like that,
but we are so conditioned to think everything has to be so perfect when what is perfect. Right. And what does the idea of that we don't have to, we can decide what is good for us? Right, Right, right. And you know, that's one thing that's, I mean, it's, it's that exactly, that really made me want to,
uh, take my focus on my business and really start focusing on single moms as well. Um, as I mentioned before, I am a single mom and there's so many, you know, general generalizations, so many stereotypes around single moms and what we need to be or what we should be, or you know, what we're expected to be. And,
um, I kind of wanted to, you know, take that away. I want it to like dismantle that belief that you know, okay, we need to be, you know, at home with the kids or we need to be, um, working all day or we need to be dependent on somebody else or we need to, you know,
we can't travel anymore. We can't do this. We can't do that because we're a single mom, you know, there's no one else that can do this. Um, you know, there's no other way around it. You put yourself in this position. So now that's all you're going to be. And so when I tell moms who are single moms who are really trying to do something else with their lives,
like I, there's so many people that I come across every day and travel groups, you know, I'm a single mom. I want to travel more. I want to move abroad. I want to start my own business, but I don't know how I'm going to because I'm the sole provider. I don't have the time. I don't have the energy.
I don't have the money. And I'm like, first of all, first and foremost, so telling yourself that you can't do it because you can. And, you know, cause I've gotten that from my family, like my whole life, not just my family, but a lot of people. And I went through a lot of hardships before taking the sleep.
I mean, I had hit rock bottom at one point, you know, I went to a good university. I came out, had my job and that made good money. And then one year just everything fell apart. I lost a job. I lost three jobs within like a or two, a two year time period. I had my son unexpectedly.
I had to file bankruptcy, you know, all before the age of 35. And I'm like, okay, I can take this and let it completely ruin me. That's what people expect that you know, okay, well, all this has happened now, you can't do all these other things because all of this happened. I'm like, okay, I can believe that.
Or I can completely dismantle those beliefs and what people are expecting of me and take it to the next level. I can show them that, you know, no, it is possible to go through hardships, to be a single mom, and still be able to push yourself above and beyond. And I made that happen. I put it in my head and I'm like,
no, I will start my own business. I will move abroad. I will, you know, spend more time with my son. He will be happy. You guys can say what she wants you, but I believe that this is going to happen. And so I made it happen. And um, you know, ever since then, you know,
things have been so positive for me and you know, and it's, uh, what do you call it inspired other women and other mothers to do the same thing. Cause it's like, you know, wow, she's sitting there and she's done all of this and I'm still going through things. But again, it's possible. Not always easy, but it's always,
always, always possible. I love that you shared that with us and that you put that out there because I too have gone through hardships. I too had, we hit a very, very low point in our lives and had to rebuild from that. And it was the exact same thought process for me is, you know, and even the good stuff,
like the hard stuff was really hard and people rally to help me, but it was more of, um, they felt bad, but I knew that we could get back up. It took a while it hurt, it was a struggle. But keeping that fire inside of you, knowing that you can still succeed and changing those beliefs. Um, and the thought those loops,
and I say this a lot on the podcast. I don't know how it always ends up coming up, but those negative self-talk loops that we get into. Yeah. It takes a thought to go into an emotion, to go into a belief. And when we start believing something that we're not good enough that we can't do this, that we have to be certain things.
That's what dictates our lives. Not so much the outside circumstances, but our own thoughts and beliefs. Yes. And so much power is behind changing the thought and getting rid of the negative and switching that out for a positive belief. We can lift each other up. We can survive over, you know, all kinds of different things and thinking outside of the box,
even when you moved abroad. And like I started my business, people thought I was crazy. Okay, cool. That's what you think. Now look at me now, look at you. Right? All of these things are those standards that everyone else has for us that we don't have to listen to. We can really March to our own beat and be okay.
Yeah. And I love that. That is the, you know, setting aside those outside expectations or looking for validation is so important to be able to actually make your dreams come true. Yeah. Right. There's a quote that I came across recently and it just spoke so much to me because I'm like, you know, that is my life right there.
What was it? It said, um, first they'll ask you why you do that first. They'll ask you why you did it. And then they will ask you how you did it. And that is exactly what happened. Like I can't tell you how much, you know, the talk I got when I said, you know, well, I'm going to move abroad over really.
Well, how are you going to work? I'm going to start my own business. Really? How are you going to do that? What do you mean by how I'm going to do it? Like, you know, I have the experience. I have, the education and it's not even about, you know, experience and education is about the desire to do it.
Like the, you know, the, really the want and the need to really kind of like follow your own passions. And I have been following, you know, someone else's dream my entire life. Like, you know, I came out of high school. Well, you have to go to college. Okay. You know, that's what I heard.
You know, these are the steps, high school, college, and so on. But why am I doing it? I don't know why I did it. I went into college undecided as a major because I didn't know what I wanted to do. All I knew was that someone told me that's what I needed to do. And coming out of college,
the same thing. Okay, great. I graduated with a degree in marketing. I'm not sure if that's what I wanted to do, but that's what I did because I had to pick something and graduate. And then it's like, okay, well now what, well, you know, you need to go get your MBA. Why? Because that's the next step.
Okay. So went through all the trouble of doing that. But again, the whole time it's like this isn't me. Like, you know, I know that these are the steps that I need to do, but this isn't me, this isn't what I want for myself. I'm going to do it because this is what my family says I should do.
This is what I think I need to do. But I don't know this if this is what I want to do. And unfortunately, you know, by putting ourselves into that mindset, that box, those expectations, it's so easy to just get astray in life and not do what we really feel and not, and end up somewhere, not happy,
unhappy. And that's what happened to me with my corporate jobs, ending up somewhere unhappy. And in a way it's like, I feel it was a blessing for me to lose my jobs. One, two, three times, because it taught me, okay, maybe this is a sign. This isn't what I needed to do. This.
Isn't where I'm supposed to be. This is like, you know, higher power or God or whoever telling me that this is this isn't for you. This is the time now for you to follow your heart, to follow, find your passions, your skills, your desires, and do what you want to do. So Kimberly here's your chance. Take it or leave it,
take the dive, or remain scared. So took it. And that's exactly what happens. The universe guides your higher self. Everything. Like if you don't take the path that you're supposed to, you will get hit with those obstacles, like losing a job. Mine was, we lost ours in 2008, the whole crash. Um, my husband lost his job and we ended up having to move an hour and a half away and redo everything.
Right. But the opportunity came from that beautiful. You know, what, what we would call a failure. Normally that actually showed me that there was so much more that I could do instead of just rolling over and doing what everybody else thinks. Right? And the same thing for you. It's going to keep coming up in our lives. So if you,
a lot of people, if you see those failures or those obstacles coming up multiple times, that's when you need to stop and say, okay, what is this trying to show me? What am I supposed to learn from this? Because one door closes literally to open many other opportunities. But if we only focus on that door closing, then we miss everything else around us.
Exactly. And it's so important to see that and to, you know, not come from a place of being scared and continuing to conform to what everybody else believes. They're deep-rooted. Those thoughts of you have to go to college, you have to do this. You have to do that are so deep-rooted in our society, in our DNA, from generations of thoughts that do follow us.
Exactly. And you know, even now I try to like the woman that I talked to and my, and my blog and my group, I tell, I try to tell people, you know, do you, and I tell my son the same thing, do what makes you happy? Like, you know, you can't just live your whole life on what someone else wants you to do.
If you feel that passion, that burning that desire, go for it. And you know, and keep pushing yourself, pushing yourself until you achieve what you want. And you're going to hear the chatter all the time, but it's up to you too, you know, really make what you want to happen. I love it. And it is one of those things we have to be very cautious about because I lived out my dream and I went against what everybody thought I did go to college.
I started off going to college for architecture. And, um, I got into a job. I got an internship. I hated my life. I left and went back to hair and everybody thought I was insane. But now looking back, like if I would not have done that, I would not be where I am today. Right. But because it's so deep-rooted,
I even caught myself saying something to my kids. Like, we've got to go to college. You got it. Yep. Wait a minute. Am I just repeating, this is this the same thing that I tried to tell myself? And it is. So that's what I mean. It's, it's so deep-rooted. That's why it's so important to reach out and get help from other people and have a supportive community,
you know? And that's why I have the podcasts like this, like hearing your story. It reminds me, and there are other things that we can do to help like, change those beliefs in our own brain so that they do not control us anymore. And that we can set out on our own path. Um, I just, as you were saying that,
I remember I remember the time when I'm like, no, Leo, you, you got to go just, you got to go to college. Like, what do you want to do? And now I'm like, okay, I can't say that anymore, because if he doesn't want to go, I mean, I want him to be successful. Right.
But he can be in so many different ways. Right? Exactly. Exactly. And I laugh at myself. It's like, wow. You know, I went to college, I went to, to a business school, got my graduate degree, all to work my way up to my job and just quit, just quit and move abroad. But you know what,
we go through things for a reason and you know, it was worth it. Yeah. And everything that you went through is it makes you who you are today. So how you can help your own clients and how you can do all of that is because of the, That you've gone on. Right. Great. Yeah. Good journey. All about the journey.
Yeah. Yeah. And then discovering, right. Yeah. You were talking about discovering your own true passion and skills. Yeah. Yeah. And that's another thing, you know, it's important to follow that. Like when you feel that desire like I felt a need a long time ago to go into business for myself. I didn't know what I wanted,
but it was there. And I got off track again, just following another path when I should have stayed on that. But, you know, I find that you know, going through the journey, it really helps you to figure out what it is that you want to do and who it is that you want to help. Even with my own business.
Again, I mentioned, you know, I left my full-time job, my corporate job and decided to move abroad and continue with marketing communications, just helping other small businesses. But even then I wasn't really doing what felt right to me. You know, it's like, okay, this is what I enjoy doing. What I like doing, but what is it?
That's not right. Like, what is it that's not making me excited. And then that's when, you know, I decided to make that turn a few months ago and really focused on helping other mompreneurs and single moms who were in the same position who are dealing with the same thing. Because I feel like it's, it's up to me to let people know that this is possible.
Like, you know, all the stuff I mentioned before that I went through as a single mom, like, you know, you can't let that destroy you or let it fall, let it let you fall. Let it, let you fall apart. There we go. And so it's like, you know, That's, and now it's just like, I just want to help other moms do the same thing and kind of like,
hold their hand, support them through it. A big thing now is just that lack of support system people feeling like they don't have someone who understands who know where they're coming from and, um, who can really support them through it. So again, whether it's someone who already has their own business and really just needs that third hand, that extra help,
that support I'm here for you or someone who really just needs that mental, emotional support so that they can follow their dreams. I'm here for them, you know? And, um, again, just taking that journey,, the entire process is really what made me feel like, OK, now, now I am where I need to be. This is what I like to do.
And I think others, it's so important for them to do the same thing to find what makes you glow at every morning when you get up and to follow that passion and that dream so important just for your own mental health and wellbeing, not only yours, but you know, like your, your, your kids as well, because then they see, okay,
well, mommy's happy doing this. So this is what I want to do too. I want to do something that makes me happy. So it's so important. It is because when we follow those passions, it doesn't feel like we're working. It doesn't feel like the stress of all of it. And we deal with things as business owners. It, like,
we talked earlier, it's not easy, but man, when you are happy and you are living in your passion, it makes life so much better and you can breathe. And you know that even if you've got a full day of work, that none of it's like super energy-draining, even the tedious stuff. Like we get through it because we know that because we get through the tedious stuff,
we get to do what we love. Like, I am so passionate about what I get to do, that it doesn't even wake up early. It doesn't feel like anything even having to work through the night. Sometimes because as business owners, we have to find our own balance. That doesn't always mean that we stop at five o'clock if we've got deadlines and everything,
but I wouldn't have it any other way. And it just, it makes such a deeper connection to what we get to do on a daily basis. Then when you were working for somebody else and living out their passion. Right, right, right, right. And there's nothing wrong with just working for someone else. If that's what makes you happy and you don't want the other pieces,
like, but you have to find that out. Whether, you know, you got to find it out for yourself. Not just because everybody tells you, you got to go get An office job. Right. Right, right. And that's another thing I tell people. Um, and like you mentioned, some people are very happy and that office environment,
I know people who love what they do, even if it is, you know, working for someone else and, you know, fulfilling someone else's dream. And this leads me to, like another thing I tell people is, you know, discover who you want to serve, discover who it is, who you are, who you want to serve, who you want to help.
And, um, go after that. You know, if it's not your own business, it's not for everybody having, you know, owning your own business is not for everybody. But again, you need to figure out what it is that you want to do, who you want to help if you want to help somebody else. And if that is,
go for it, either way, find, find out what it is that you want, and go in and like wholeheartedly. Well, and I think it takes so many different people. Like not everybody needs to be or will be good at entrepreneurship. I know that even in my trade, a lot of hairstylists, they aspire to own their own place. But running a salon is way different than just being behind the chair and doing your craft.
Right. Right. We all have to, we're not all meant to be a hairstylist. I mean, salon owners, some salon owners shouldn't have been. And I got really lucky that I actually loved the business part just as much as I loved the hair part. So that's what allowed me to move into that. But not everybody should and that's, we need all kinds of people and it's just honing in,
not listening to what other people say you should do, but honing into what actually lights you up and what makes you feel good and making a bigger impact. Yes. Yes. The thing is, what impact am I actually making? Right. Exactly. Exactly. And you know, as I, as I come across other moms and groups who are trying to kind of break into the virtual world or working on their own,
the biggest mistake that I see is, you know, the comparison is asking, okay, well, I see this as what other people are doing. So do I need to learn the same thing? Do I need to do the same thing? And it's like, no, you don't. Because just because for example, in my part, the marketing,
the social media people are like, you know, well, I guess I need to learn social media because that's what everyone's doing. Well, a lot of people do social media, but they're good at social media and they want to do it. It doesn't mean that you should do it. What do you want to do? Otherwise, you're going to get stuck doing something that you don't like,
or that, you know, it's not necessarily what you're good at. And then you end up hating it, you know? And then you're right back to square one, trying to figure out who you are and what it is that you want to do. Or people always talk about niching down, helping a certain issue. Well, I think I'll I'll help this one because it seems to make more money or more people are into that.
I made that mistake thinking I should help a certain group of people because that's where the money was. And then I quickly found out, but that's not where my heart is. That's not what I want to do. And it's not that easy at that point. You, you can't really fully help someone if you're not your, mind's not there. If your,
your passion, your, your desire, isn't there, not everything is for everyone. It's not a one size fits all type of thing. You really have to go in and, and figure out what pieces work for you. And then go with that piece. It's not everything for everyone. Yeah. And the thing is too, is you can force yourself to do whatever.
I mean, we're all, you know, we're all very capable of forcing herself to do something because it makes money or it makes sense. Or somebody said I should, or this opportunity came up, but you'll be miserable. Right. Who wants to be miserable? And I truly a hundred percent believe that if you lead from your heart, that the wealth,
the money, the, you know, everything else that you want comes along, you don't even have to. Yeah. You don't even have to worry about whether this technically makes a lot of money or not. If you lead from your heart, you will manifest that into your life. So it's being happier. That actually brings you wealth and abundance and prosperity.
Exactly, exactly. And I think it's just, I don't think that enough people hear it and see it and believe that they can do it. That's why what you're doing is so important to show people that it is possible. Yeah, absolutely. And I hope that people really take that in and see, especially, you know, the longer I go through this and they see that,
okay, well, this she's been doing this for a couple of years now. I will, you know, she made the, she, she set her goals, she made her plan. So this is exactly what I need to do and what I can do, like, you know, so important. Yeah. And that's the next thing you said you were talking about was setting the goals and then executing.
Right. Right. You know, that was probably the biggest thing for me is, um, you know, for, for years I had told myself, this is what I wanted to do, but, you know, unless you, uh, unless you actually put things onto, I don't want to say put it onto paper, but until you set goals and make a plan for yourself,
the things that you want for yourself, I mean, they're, they're just words, they're just ideas. And so it's so important, you know, for me, I told myself, okay, this is what I want to do. This is exactly how I'm going to do it for me. My end goal was to be able to move abroad and be more present for my son.
So I set a date, I set a date with the consulate and I got a visa and booked a ticket at that point, the tickets booked and my, you know, I'm going to have to do something exactly. I went through the time and the energy to do this. And I also put in a date, to leave my job. And then at that point,
Oh my gosh, no, I really have to do something. I really have to make it happen. So, um, yeah, like, you know, my advice for other people who want to do something, you know, they have that idea in mind is to just push themselves going forward. And that's something that I wish I had done years ago when I first came up with that idea is to just do it anyway.
And I tell people that now when they say, well, what advice would you give your younger self? Just do it. You know, if you have that idea that burning that desire, it's there for a reason. So go for it, you know, set your goals, make your plans, how yourself, where you want to be work backward and make it happen.
And, you know, as we talked about during this whole chat, you know, follow your goals, what you want to do, and don't stray from that. And you'll get to where you want to be so much faster. You know, once you, once you write that stuff down, once you, you commit to yourself, and that's another thing is really learning to commit to yourself.
And again, not to, to someone else commit to what you want. And once you make that commitment, it's like, Oh my gosh, everything's possible. The moment that I did that and decided that, okay, this is, this is for me, this is for me and my son. Once I made that decision as everything fell into place.
It's just amazing how much easier things fell into place. And I wish I would have done that so long ago, The journey you had to go on is the journey that had to push you to that point. And you know, what we're doing today is trying to show women that it is possible. Like not everybody has to get to that point. Let the women who already have gotten to that point,
like kind of show you and guide you. But the biggest thing with goal setting for me is I've got, I mean, I come up with lots and lots of goals all the time, but really you can visualize, you can think about it and say how much you really want to do it, but none of that will happen without action. Exactly.
Right. So it's this beautiful part of putting those visualizations. Cause I'm huge into sitting down meditating. This is how I do it. Um, really visualize what I want and visualize the outcome, feel it like, how is that going to make me feel? But then if I just visualize it every day and do no action, it's not going to come true.
Right. You got to put the action with the bigger goals and really make those, even if they're tiny steps, we don't have to make these huge jumps, tiny steps will make a huge difference in your life and getting to those goals. Yeah. Yeah. You gotta start somewhere. You have to start walking the path if you want to get to your destination.
So yeah, absolutely People around you to help support that dream. And you know, the other naysayers and the people who don't believe, just turn your ear away from them and focus on the people who are more positive. I want to be there for you or just a community like this. It doesn't even have to cause a lot of the times we can't depend on our families to understand or are,
you know, really close people because even if it sounds crazy, they really are looking out for us. Right. And they project their own fears. Like they would never do something like that. So then projecting it on you. And not because if they don't love you or support you, but because that's something they would never do, it scares them.
To find communities outside of that. That's why you have your blog and your community to help and support that type of dream. Same with me. Like I, if you have a certain dream and you're looking to really make an impact like I'm here to support you. I may not be your family, but I will support you. Well, we'll be there and we'll work things out together and I'll show you the way and you'll show them the way.
And that's what is so beautiful about everything that you're doing and the, you know, the fact that we get to do this when you're in Mexico and I'm here and so much more as virtual now. Yeah. Yeah. And, um, you know, I'm glad you mentioned, you know, finding that community. I said that to my group,
um, a couple of weeks ago is, uh, you know, one of the first steps I think, and to really getting to where you need to be is to surround yourself with that supportive community. Because sometimes, you know, as you say, we do look to our friends and families to be the first ones to support and that's not necessarily the case.
And so it's so important just to find, find your tribe and, you know, that's what really helped me in the beginning as well. You know, I happened to stumble across a group of traveling moms, uh, traveling, single moms. And then that's what really opened my world up to everything. I'm like, wow, okay, this is possible.
But I wouldn't have known that if I had not put myself into this group and started to meet these other women. And you know, from there you meet other groups of women, you start to befriend with them. And I'm, I'm friends with a lot of people on Facebook that I feel like I know personally that I have never met in person, but you know,
that's my support system. And that's what pushed me. That's kind of what really helps me even now to this day, things that you know, where I'm feeling, um, you know, discouraged or feeling like, you know, I need help with something or I'm not capable of something. That's when I look to that group to say, Nah, Kimberly you're,
you're capable of everything. Just like you tell the people you work with, you're capable of every single thing that you put your mind to, but you know, you have to have that, that support that community to really push you along. And so to help you get to where you want to be, Of course, and it shows, I like,
I love how you said that it opened up your eyes. That's what that community supposed to do. Open up your eyes to the possibilities of the things that you kind of want, but you can't see how that outcome would, would happen for you. It just brings up so much more possible when others help kind of, um, Oh, the words are not coming to me,
but they kind of help facilitate that dream of just thinking outside of the box. And there are so many communities out there. And I think that no matter what anybody who's listening wants to do, there is a community out there that would help you and just look into it and really research it. And, you know, you can always reach out to us as well.
Um, so I think that that's just, it's comforting to know that there are people out there that will help you, even if you can't necessarily get it right in your, your close-knit circle. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Always somebody there. Yes. Well, tell us how we can follow up with you and where we can find you so that everyone can go over and take a look at what your community looks like.
Sure, sure. So, the Blog that I'm speaking about is travel on a product Pella unapologetically. Oh my gosh. It's like, I love the name, but it's so hard to say it. My mom said the same thing. She's like, I love it, but don't you take it to be difficult for people to say,
I'm like, no, it's just unapologetic-ally. So I am on Facebook. Um, as well as, you know, my website is travel unapologetically.com. There's an Instagram page as well. And then there's KNN virtual for, you know, the marketing support for, for business support as well. So from entrepreneurs who want to learn a little bit more about that,
it's Canon virtual.com and I'm also on Instagram as well as Facebook as well. And the group that I mentioned, it's called single moms, uh, exceeding expectations, I'm sorry, single moms breaking expectations and thriving abroad, and that's on Facebook as well. So that's a great place to join a community of other like-minded single moms who are looking to, to build their own business or looking to grow their own business so that they can travel more move abroad,
or just to create a lifestyle where they are location independent. That's wonderful. And I am going to make it really easy and all of the links are going to be on the blog. And that way you can go in and just follow Kimberly, see everything she's up to and, you know, join the communities, be a part of this movement of women,
really starting to step into their power and being who we're supposed to be to make us happy. And when we make ourselves happy, we make everybody else around us happy. We've always heard that happy wife, happy life. My husband sees that when I step into who I am, it does, it affects your children and affects your, you know, everyone around you.
So I'm so glad that you are on today and sharing your beautiful story. I think that is so amazing that you just up and moved and followed your dreams and are thriving and really, you know, showing everyone that we can do anything that we're putting our minds to. It's a beautiful story. And I really appreciate your being here today. Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to tell my story.
It was great talking with you and also hearing about your story as well. Like, you know, I think that you know, together when we all work together and give each other strength, build each other up, you know, so much as possible and it's important. So thank you so much, So much. Thank you. And to all of our viewers,
thank you for being here. Thank you for listening to Kimberly's story. Please go follow her. It's going to be really easy on the blog. Just head over there and follow the links and come back to see us next week. Thank you again and have a wonderful week. Okay, guys. Bye. Thank you so much for listening today. Please make sure that you go over to the blog and follow all the links for our guests and get the downloads that we talked about.
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